The Royal Road to Self-Confidence

We all want self-confidence.
We want self-confidence in our work.
We want self-confidence in our relationships.
We want self-confidence in our life.

The problem with self-confidence
is that we try to approach it directly.
We think we can think our way into self-confidence.
“You can do it. You can do it,”
is the mantra we repeat to ourselves.

Self-confidence, however, is actually a by-product,
the by-product of choosing courage, 
again and again.

We cannot choose self-confidence directly.
But we can choose courage directly.

By putting our focus on self-confidence
we distract ourselves from the real choice:
the choice of courage.

If you want self-confidence in your work,
ask yourself,
“Where are the opportunities
for choosing courage to get what I want in my work?”
If you want self-confidence in your relationships,
ask yourself,
“Where are the opportunities
for choosing courage to get what I want
in my relationships?”

If you want self-confidence in your life,
ask yourself,
“Where are the opportunities
for choosing courage to get what I want in my life?”

Beware of focusing directly on the issue of self-confidence.
Focus instead on finding the opportunities
for choosing courage.
Self-confidence will take care of itself.

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Self-confidence is the result of a successfully survived risk.
–Jack Gibb

Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear. Perhaps the action you take will be successful; perhaps different action or adjustments will have to follow. But any action is better than no action at all.
–Norman Vincent Peale (1898-1993, American Christian Reformed pastor, speaker, author)

Confidence is courage at ease. 
–Daniel Maher